is all. The laughter and the tears that fall.The mundane and magical"~Marck
Girl Next Door
If you've ever
been in love, or even had a crush on someone, you'll know what I mean
when I talk about that adrenaline rush, those goose-bumps, the beating
heart, sweaty palms and fluttery stomach you experience when you set
your sights on the special One.
Cupid has his way, the beau or belle of your choice also reciprocates
these feelings, and you find yourself enjoying the coveted position
of being the Significant Other! Congratulations. You have achieved
total bliss. Or have you?
Call me a cynical
old fuddy-duddy, but the teen dating scene today leaves me wondering
whether romances are just the stuff of M&B's. To say that all
the casual (I'm emphasizing that word to show that I mean only the
I don't want to
go into a messy discussion on long term commitments) relationships
today are disastrous would be both inaccurate and unfair. However,
dysfunctional dating scenarios are on the rise, whether you're willing
to admit it or not. So, while my hat goes off to those smart, sensible
and LUCKY lovebirds out there who have chewed out their difficulties
to make it good while it lasts, let's all take a look at some situations
where the couples don't fare so well, shall we?
He's the hottest guy on the basketball team. She's the cutest chick
in school. They look gorgeous together. So what do they do? They go
out. In many cases, that's the only thing that not only holds them
together as long as it does, but also has the rose-spectacled romantics
sighing over them. In many cases, they share few common interests.
But hey, if film stars can do it all the time, why can't we, eh?
When the wicked witch banished Rapunzel from the tower, the poor prince
combed through the kingdom searching for his lost love. Of course,
he was blind at the time, so probably couldn't read her text messages.
While he searched, his long-haired lady waited patiently, remaining
true to him until they reunited.
Fast forward to
the 21st century, and you have the disconnected duo losing sleep missing
their loved ones for about a few months at best. Then the 'out of
sight, out of mind' syndrome sets in, and at least one of them finds
someone new, and it's au revoir to the old relationship.
In the event that
the LDR (Long Distance Relationship, silly!) does last, so does this
overwhelming sense of paranoia that it might just end any day. I know
of this one guy who just loses it if he doesn't hear from his girlfriend
everyday. Trust me, those are the kind of people you don't want to
touch with a ten-foot pole.
The invention of Instant Messaging has thrown a new dimension onto
the whole dating business. Notice how people take on a new identity
when they're online. The same guy who always sat at the back of the
class, out of sight, the same girl who can't speak above a whisper,
become bolder and flirtier on MSN/Yahoo!/ AOL.
someone falls in love with this bold and forthcoming IM personality.
What happens when the two interact face-to-face? Ten to one, they
discover just how incompatible they are. Looks like honesty IS the
best policy after all, but how amusing it all is for the third party!
A phenomenon seen amongst the current generation, the couple spends
insane amounts of money on gifts and dates, and even on treats for
the best friends of the Significant Other. Hey, we dinosaurs used
to splurge too, in our time, but not to this extent.
If you're happily
unattached, then do take a stroll around the city on Valentine's Day
(unless there's a hartal and a good chance of getting bombed). The
mayhem you'll see around you isn't very different from the cow-buying
spree right before Qurbanir Eid. There is a weird spirit of one-upmanship,
where the reckless lovers try to show off their 'devotion' for their
loved ones by emptying their wallets out on mushy, impractical stuff
the recipients probably can't ever use.
There are actually
people who start going out in the hope of being lavished with gifts
and treats, so that when the wallet starts to run dry, so does the
there's more to a happy relationship than just stuff.
about each other, or just plain crazy?
You've seen a few of them. On good days, they're all over each other,
tonsil-tennis on full throttle, octopus hands roving freely, whether
the said couple happens to be in a public concert, a football match,
or even in school. On bad days, they're at each other's throats, screaming
expletives at one another, threatening suicide, occasionally even
resorting to self-abuse.
It might be very
amusing to talk about stuff like that when you're in the mood for
gossip, but if you ever get stuck between such a pair on one of the
bad days…well, God help you. And they wonder where Ekta Kapoor gets
inspiration for her weird soap plots.
Someone who was
cracking a politician joke said '99% of the politicians make the rest
look bad'. I guess the same could be said of the local teen dating
scene. So if you're amongst the small percentage who can say that
you'll look back on your dating years and have no major regrets, give
yourself a round of applause. You're truly an endangered species.